When most people think of high conflict people (HCPs), they think of bad behavior. HCPs can be difficult people with whom to work, live and resolve conflicts. They can be rigid, angry, attacking, criticizing, lying, spreading rumors, manipulative, self-absorbed, attention-getting, self-sabotaging, and sometimes violent. Most people respond to this bad behavior by giving negative feedback: criticizing, lecturing or threatening the HCP.
Parties and advocates can flounder in the intersection of logic and emotion. What if the parties’ goals are “distributive” and their “interests” are legal arguments? What if the participants are aggressive, intransigent and obnoxious? A “transformative” mediation would involve an exorcism, but that seems a bit “evaluative.” A “facilitative” mediation would require a PhD. This program will focus on “nuts and bolts.”
‘No compromise”. That was UK Sport’s mantra in the lead up to the London Olympics. High performance sport is characterised by its commitment to world-class excellence. “Good enough” is not good enough. Only the highest levels of performance will do. In my own extensive work with UK Sport and other sporting bodies and individuals, I have been struck by the fine margins between success and failure.
Recently I had the privilege of attending a meeting where the presenter gave a powerful talk about how to engage with people. His story is in itself amazing, especially his journey through drug addiction to a place where he is now able to provide support and guidance for others on difficult journeys. His message resonated with me in terms of how we can work with people in mediation.
UNITED NATIONS (Reuters) - The United Nations said on Saturday it aims to bring together Syria's warring parties on Jan. 25 in Geneva to begin talks to try to end nearly five years of civil war.
The number of people using mediation to resolve family disputes has risen, the government announced this week. In their figures for the third quarter of 2015 – July to September – the Ministry of Justice (MoJ) revealed that the number of mediation sessions started was 19 per cent higher than last year.